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It is important for children to learn socialization skills in school and at home. Children are naturally egocentric, thinking of themselves as the center of their world, at birth. It takes development and training to teach children to think of others as well as themselves.

This tendency is not negative, and is inborn in all human beings. However, for children to operate successfully in society, they must learn to interact with others in a healthy, positive, and productive manner. In order to prepare children to be successful in adults, it is crucial that we as adults encourage social interaction, monitor social skills, and teach healthy ways to interact with other children and with adults. Socialization skills are important not only in school but in all of adult life as well.

Children with poor socialization skills are less likely to form healthy intimate relationships as adults, more likely to experience peer rejection, and have a higher likelihood of running into trouble either with the juvenile or adult legal system. Social skills in schools impact safety as well as interpersonal interactions, because students with poor social skills are more likely to demonstrate aggressive or violent behavior, are less likely to be able to self-regulate their behavior, and have trouble asking or accepting help from others, which makes violence a more likely response to conflicts.

Academic performance is also impacted, because students who are shunned by peers develop self-esteem issues, depression, and apathy toward those around them, which makes students less likely to focus their energy on academic achievement. Some of the most important social skills for children to learn are conflict resolution, understanding and forming positive social interactions, valuing other people and their ideas, taking turns, and taking responsibility for their own actions.

In order to teach these skills, both teachers and parents must foster an appropriate social environment by modeling and teaching respectful interactions with others, teaching students to work responsibly together, and responding appropriately to conflicts themselves. It is crucial that the adults involved in the lives of children model appropriate social behavior because children learn from what they see the adults who are important in their lives do, far more than what adults say they should do.

As children grow, they realize that there are others in the world, and that other people have feelings, needs, and desires just like they do. The egocentric mental state that they are born with changes, allowing them to look outside themselves to the people, adult and children, around them. In order to learn socialization skills, children must learn to transfer the child's own thinking to others.

This means that if a child does not like the way someone is treating them, they can realize that that means that if they treat others that way, the people around them are likely to get upset, and they will hurt the person that they are trying to interact with. This realization, along with proper examples from teachers and parents, allows children to tell appropriate from inappropriate social behaviors.

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Allie moved from NC to a new school into Kindergarden in Virginia. Allie was very popular at her school in NC and well liked. Upon entering this new school in Virginia, she has encountered socialization problems with other classmates because even in kindergarden there are "clicks"/little groups that have bonded together and have excluded little Allie and she has been very upset. What in the world can be done to help Allie? She dresses well and is a pretty little girl too and very kind/sweet child. What can parents and or teachers do to help with this problem? Please provide some ideas! Please and Thank You so much! By Karen on 07-06-13 at 11:18am
From the teacher standpoint, I solicited the help of one or two of my students who had outgoing personalities and were always kind, and quietly asked them to include the new child in free time activities, such as recess, small group time within the classroom, etc. Also, I would ask the new child to be my "helper" from time to time, which would allow him/her the opportunity to feel important, and perhaps boost self-confidence. I found that time usually takes care of these situations at school. For all the years I taught, the "very kind/sweet child" eventually ended up with many friends. By Anonymous on 23-07-13 at 11:52am
While the input from the teacher's standpoint is helpful, I would also suggest that the teacher talk with the child's parents to make sure that each is reinforcing what the other is doing in terms of helping to socialize the child. So many parents don't seem to realize that socialization begins at birth; even a young baby can quickly learn that hitting Mommy/Daddy in the face isn't okay. The parent can simply take the child's hand in hers and say, "No hitting. That's no okay," and expect to have to repeat the lesson several times before the child grasps the concept. Ditto with all other lessons as the child grows. Most children can learn by example as well as direct teaching, but many adults tire quickly of constantly repeating the same message. Sorry--this is a
4/7, 18-year job and repetition is required! So, while I don't know what's going on at home with little Allie, I would hope that her mother will work with the teacher, who can have a lot of say in the establishment/abolishment of the "cliques/little groups" that tend to exclude others. Just getting rid of that exclusivity factor will help a lot. By Anonymous on 19-04-14 at 03:36pm
Not all students socialize. They cut themselves off from society. You should add some stuff about it. By Jesus on 21-04-14 at 04:43pm
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