Marriage is not something to be taken lightly. It requires hard work and dedication on the part of both people. Anyone can say they want to be married, but then do not do anything to make it work. The divorce rate is on the rise and will only keep going up unless we learn how to overcome the odds and develop a successful marriage. All too often people give up on their marriage before even working on it. Don’t become another statistic; you can do something about it here and now.
There are various tips and tricks to making a marriage last, such as:
• Communication – Make sure that you have an open and honest relationship with one another. If something has been bothering you or if you had a bad day at work, take the time to talk with your partner about it. Don’t let things buildup inside. In the end it will all come out one way or another and often when you least expect it.
If you find yourself in an argument with your spouse, talk about things rationally; use common sense during your discussions. Any attack on the other’s character will only create resentment, so think before you say something you might regret later.
Always let the person finish their sentences. Repeatedly cutting them off is a sign that you do not respect them. A healthy marriage requires respect and compassion for the other person’s needs and feelings. Anytime there is no respect in the marriage there is sure to be conflict. Try implementing techniques to help you focus on what the other person has to say. Provide them with at least five minutes of uninterrupted time to speak their mind before offering any input.
• Intimacy – Make time for each other. Plan to have a date night at least once a month. Regardless of how long you have been married, it is essential that you make time to share in the intimate moments that drew you together in the first place. Don’t ever take anything for granted in a relationship. Everyone wants to feel special and important. When you plan a night out for the two of you it allows you to enjoy the romance and the company of each other. Keep the spark in your marriage alive by doing as much as you can to let your spouse know how much you appreciate them.
Granted these are only two of the things that you can do to help make your marriage last and there are many more out there, but the key to making a marriage last lies within you and what you are going to do to make it work. It is not going to be a walk in the park but having the person you love by your side through thick and thin can be one of the best feelings in the world. Don’t waste any more precious time when there is so much more to life than being without the one you love.